Good day, and Welcome to another
new episode of CORE-man SENSETM which promises to be wonderful.
Today we’ll be looking at conflict management. Conflict management is a
phenomenon that is part of our everyday lives and we seldom don’t pay rapt
attention to or we absolutely neglect due to ignorance. In conflict management
we examine what we do when conflicting situations arise and how to get the best
out of it, they considerably favour two major things which are:
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How to achieve our personal goal.
·
How to keep a good relationship.
Majority of times, what we do
during conflict management are unplanned and sometimes unlearned i.e. many
people don’t know why they act the way they do until they’ve done so. Many
conflict management strategies are learnt from childhood unknowingly especially
where I come from where powerful proverbs and metaphors are being used to carve
a niche in your behavioural pattern. Painfully, some of the proverbs we assume
are not totally empowering. They create a set-back to the way we act and react
to some extreme situations because many of this proverbs where coined as a
result of another situation well thought of by un-learned or semi-learned men
with traditional wisdom and no sheer juxtaposition with the empirical.
Here are a few proverbs that have
been used by many over the years for resolving and managing conflict, you can
score yourself on the scale of 1-5 indicating how typical each proverb is of
your actions. Please read carefully.
5
= very typical of the way I act in a conflict.
4
= frequently typical of the way I act in a conflict.
3
= sometimes typical of the way I act in a conflict.
2
= seldom typical of the way I act in a conflict.
1
= never typical of the way I act in a conflict.
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Soft words win hard hearts.
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You scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours too.
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When two quarrel, the person who keeps silent
first is the most praiseworthy.
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Might overcomes right.
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Smooth words makes sweet ways.
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Half a loaf is better than no bread.
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Truth lies in knowledge not in majority opinion.
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It is easier to refrain than to retreat from a
quarrel.
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Come now and let us reason together.
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He who fights and run away lives to fight
another day.
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He hath conquered well that hath made his
enemies flee.
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Kill your enemies with kindness.
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Stay away from people who disagree with you.
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Fields are won by those who believe in winning.
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A fair exchange brings no quarrel.
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Frankness, honesty and trust will move
mountains.
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There are two kinds of people in the world,
winners and losers.
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The best way of handling conflict is to avoid
them.
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Tit for tat is fair play.
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Put your foot where you mean to stand.
Ensure to note, that the higher
your score; the more frequent you use that strategy for conflicts and like
situations and the lower it is, the less frequent you apply that strategy. Join
us in our next edition, as we will be examining the styles of conflict
management and how constructive can conflicts be? We’ll be looking forward to
your comments. Thank you.
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