CORE-man SENSETM
Why do
addicted gamblers and smokers give up on their habits only to pick them back on
in few months or days? Why would you write a resolution and not fulfil one out
of the list. These and many more we would find out in this series of CORE-man
SENSETM.
"Good and evil, reward and
punishment, are the only motives to a rational creature: these are the spur and
reins whereby all mankind are set on work, and guided."
JOHN LOCKE
This is the identical force that drives people to gamble.
Once they've gambled and been rewarded—and linked intense pleasure to the
reward—that excitement and anticipation pushes them to go forward.
When they haven't been rewarded in a while, often they have
an even stronger sense that this time they'll be rewarded. What drives the
gambler is the possibility of winning again. If a person were to gamble without
ever receiving a reward, they would give up.
However, receiving
just a few small rewards, winning just a few hands, "earning" back
just some of their money, keeps them in a state of anticipation that they could
hit the jackpot.
This is why people who discontinue a bad habit (like smoking
or gambling) for a period of months, and then decide to have "just one more
hit," are actually reinforcing the very pattern that they're trying to
break and making it much more difficult to be free of the habit for a lifetime.
If you smoke one more cigarette, you're stimulating your nervous system to
expect that in the future you'll reward yourself this way again. You're keeping
that neuro-association highly active and, in fact, strengthening the very habit
you're trying to break!
When people give up on a particular habit and let the bad
habit take the most of them without hesitating to give it a fight or perhaps
you’ve tried once or twice and thought it doesn’t just work with this kind,
this phenomenon is called learned helpnessness. Learned
helplessness is a destructive mindset people develop when they experienced
enough failure at something. Like I often say habits are tiny fragments of
thoughts neatly interwoven into actions which find enough strength or cause to
be repeated often in our daily activities. Most habits can be broken by
deliberate and repeated undoing of the habit, when it comes to habit you don’t
just do the opposite once; you continually do the opposite against the strength
of the habit until your brain can’t find any neuro-association with that act
anymore. This occurs on the average for most between 21-30 days.
Thoughts results to action, and actions results to habits.
Why don’t you keep a conscious watch of your thought today? “Keep and guard your
heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard, for out of it flows the
springs of life.” -PROVERBS
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nice one bro.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much, well appreciated.
DeleteLoved this line: you continually do the opposite against the strength of the habit until your brain can’t find any neuro-association with that act anymore.
ReplyDeleteHi Dara, trust you are doing great. It's been a while, missed seeing you.
Wow, I really appreciate that brother.
ReplyDeleteIt applies to every segment of our lives...
Ps: Missed you so much too